A Woman's Point of View
by Tanya Sanchez
December 2007

Dear Tanya,

I am hoping that you can give me some advice about a situation involving me and my best friend. You see we have known each other for a long time. We recently moved in together. And things have been going great. The problem is she met someone and has now decided to cut me out of her life. I don’t mind that she has a boyfriend. I am happy that she is happy. What I do mind is being cut completely out of her life. We will make plans and she will break them at the last minute because she has decided to do something with her boyfriend instead leaving me hanging. Now I hope I don’t sound like a spoiled brat because I’m really not. I just think that it’s wrong to forget who have been there for you through all the hard times. I just don’t know how to handle this with her. Can you please help?

Signed,
Missing My BFF

Dear Missing My BFF,
I would like you to know that I understand your feelings. Change is often difficult to deal with and when you are used to having someone in your life anything that puts a strain on that may be stressful. I would have to ask, have you talked to your best friend? One thing that keeps a relationship strong is communication. I have said this many times, in many different responses to issues I have received. What it all boils down to in the end is trust and honesty, without these elements a foundation will crumble. I don’t think your feelings are unjust. I mean most people expect the same thing that you expect from your friend. In fact if your best friend went about this differently then they really could have the best of both worlds. People tend to get caught up in something that’s new and exciting and take other things that seem so constant in their life for granted. I think this may be the case here. Your best friend has to know that what you to share is solid and this may be why they feel its ok to push you to the side on occasion to spend time with their new love interest. Who knows, your best friend may not even see it as anything wrong. I urge you to talk to your friend. Let them know how you feel and why. Remember to let your friend know you are happy that they found love but just wish they could be more considerate of your feelings and try harder to keep their word to you. If you do this I am confident that it will all work out.
Please have a Happy Holiday Season and good luck!

As always feel free to give me an update. Thank you for trusting me with your issue.

Sincerely,
Tanya-Sabor HR
tanya@saborhr.com